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What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger?

That's what they say. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. It just means all the challenges and problems that happen in your life can make you stronger. But the real question here is, is this saying true? Does it really make you stronger? Because if it is true, why do we feel hurt when those challenges and problems come? We do not feel stronger when problems are here with us. The pain are so real. We get down. We feel weak. So, how can it make us stronger when we just feel weak and down?


I found a thoughtful quote by Jax Teller from TV series "Sons of Anarchy". Here is what he said, "There's an old saying that which doesn't kill you makes you stronger, I don't believe that. I think the things that try to kill you make you angry and sad."

I also once read a statement from someone on internet: "I'm so sick and tired of people telling me the saying that it will make me stronger. I am angry, sad, pissed off, and in disbelief, and right now my situation does not make me feel like I'm stronger."

To be honest, this made me think again about the statement "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger". I always know this saying is true, but I also agree that I feel weak and get down when problems are around.

After thinking for a while, I finally got my own conclusion. Pain, anger, sadness, and disappointment are there when you are in the process. You feel like it is unfair. You are pissed off. That's all just because you are in the process. But process is not the endpoint.

I always believe problems and challenges are not there just to get you down and make you suffer. They are there to teach you so you can learn and grow. It can be challenging in the process. You don't feel comfortable because you are stretched into the better potential in you. It can be hard, but once the process is done and you see the result, you finally realize that everything you have been through would be really worth it.

Here is the thing. A problem is always bad when you look at the difficulties, but it is good when you look at how it changes you to better and stronger. When you know something bad happens for the better, you find happiness in your pain. But whatever it is, it always makes you stronger in the end. If you do not feel so, maybe you are still in the process.

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