From denial to acceptance
When you lose something you really love...
I believe I am not the only one who has experienced this: losing something you really love. It doesn’t always have to be a person. Yes, it can be someone you love, but it can also be a job you lose, a dream that doesn’t work, or just something you have to give up. If you’re experiencing it, perhaps this is for you. You may think it is unfair, but it’s a part of life, and everyone has to face this.
It’s not easy. This feeling can be really painful. I can say it is one of the hardest moments in everyone’s life, but that’s life. Life doesn’t always go the way you want it. The thing is, when you love something so much, you just want to keep it with you, and losing it is a thing you don’t even want to imagine. But sometimes you just need to accept it, whether you want it or not.
It's true that everything has its end and you can’t control everything. No matter how hard you try to avoid something to happen, sometimes it just happens. And the problem with people is, when it happens, a lot of us are not ready for it. You just deny it. You don't want to accept the truth, when it's just the truth.
Denial - It’s the stage of life when you try to convince yourself that you don’t lose it. You try so hard to get it back. You just want to prove yourself that it is not something permanent. Instead, you want to believe it is just a bad dream, not reality.
The truth hurts, but when it is done, it is done. What has gone is gone. When you lose it, you really lose it. Sometimes it’s just the truth. All you have to do is to accept. It’s hard to accept a bad thing, but denial doesn’t lead to solution. Denial just gives you false hope which makes you feel more terrible in the end.
I’m not writing this to bring you down. I’m writing this because I also experience it. If there is one thing I can learn from it, it’s that denial makes you stuck on something that doesn’t make anything better but worse. So, the faster you accept the truth, the better it is.
"What should I do after I accept it?" Maybe that’s the question you ask. All I can say is, don’t lose hope. Just because you have to accept some difficult truths about your life, doesn’t mean you have to believe life can’t get better and there is no hope for you anymore. Bad things happen, but hope never ends. It may not be exactly what you want it to be, but acceptance helps you keep moving forward and brings you to the brighter days with better solution.
"Where one thing falls, another grows. Maybe not what was there before, but something new and wonderful all the same." –Bambi’s Mother
Acceptance does not mean you give up on something you love. It means you’re brave enough to let go and face the most difficult season in your life. When you do that, you’ll be surprised that life can offer you more opportunities. Just because you lose something you love, doesn’t mean you lose everything. Just because you have to give up on one thing, doesn’t mean you have to give up on your life.
Accept reality, but change your point of view.
Perhaps one good moment in your life must end, but it doesn’t mean your life ends at this point. Things change, but life goes on. Take courage to accept it. The best is yet to come.