06 July 2012

Let go so you can breathe

Last week my grandma just passed away. It was a shock for everyone in my family, especially my Dad. Actually, my Dad is a strong person. It's very difficult to bring him down, except it's something that means so much to him. And it was the first time I saw my Dad got so depressed. It's like he couldn't accept the fact that his mother was not with him anymore. The thing is, he still didn't want to let her mom go.

It made me think a lot. I told to myself, well, this is the life. There is a start to everything, but there is also the end. Everything has its stages, and maybe this is the stage where we have to say goodbye to our grandma.

Some people come into your life, you start to love them, then you feel so happy when they're around, and you just want to enjoy every single moment you have with them. But we all know nothing lasts forever. Sooner or later, there is always something that makes you can't be with them anymore. It may be death, just like what happened between my Dad and my grandma. It may be other things too, such as relationship problems. Many things. Whatever it is, the key is not to wait for the end to come. It is to enjoy every single moment while you still have the chance to do it. Enjoy it and be thankful.


Then, what should we do when it ends? That's the problem that many people forget. Let go. It's hard to let go when the thing you have to let go is something that you really love. It's like there will be a big problem, ready to ruin everything if you don't keep it. That's why you don't dare to let go. And that's the real problem.

The biggest problem in life is when you don't want to let go of things you should let go.

Everyone has to let go. It's not always about death. It's not always about people. It may be about your relationship, your job, your ego, your power, your childhood. There are many things.

When the time comes, you have to let go. Let go so you can breathe. Most people are afraid that everything will be worse if they let go. The truth is, there is a time when you can't keep it anymore, and the big trouble that really makes everything worse is actually when you still don't want to accept that it is the time to let go.

It hurts when you have to let go something you really love, but it can hurt you more if you don't.

It's not easy. Once you let go, you have no idea what will happen next. But sometimes letting go is the only choice for you to keep surviving, moving on, and living your life. Sometimes letting go is the only way for you to keep "breathing".

It's like there is a heavy burden on your shoulder when you don't let go. And when you're finally willing to let go, you finally realize that it doesn't have to burden you. You start living life again. You start to breathe freely.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Thanks Wilson for writing about this. My grandma just passed away too and my whole family is in great shock. We are all very saddened and have no idea what to do and it's hard to let go. I feel so comforted after reading your post and I just wanna thank you for sharing. Indeed everyone has to learn to let go so they can breathe. I've been greatly blessed and I hope you'd keep up with your blogging because your posts really do inspire many and comfort many out there. Thank you and God bless you! :)