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Toxic People

Guys, sorry for just coming back again to my blog. I've been a bit busy lately. FYI, I just started studying for master degree last month. So, here I am in Singapore again! :)

"Some people are just toxic. You don't need to fix them. You just need to avoid them." 

This time I'm gonna talk about an interesting topic (I guess). It's inspired by my lecturer from Ireland. That time when he was teaching in my class, he said, "Some people are just toxic. You don't need to fix them. You just need to avoid them". Somehow what he said is true.

Don't you think so? It's like we can always find this kind of people wherever we are. I never get bored to say it again and again: you can't please everyone. And this kind of people are one of them that you should not please.

When I was a kid, I would do anything to make everybody to like me. For me, it was not right to have a hater, even just one. Every time there was just one person who didn't like me, I would try to get it right and make the person change his mind.

But that's not who I am today. I mean, why should I even bother? Why should I care and waste my time for those kind of people? If they don't like me, it's their problem, not mine. Right?

One thing I learn: you can't make everybody like you. Surely there are always those people who just try to bring you down. Even when you have become your best, they will still try to find weaknesses in you. You know what they say, "Hater's gonna hate". All they do is just to find imperfection in you and point out their fingers to your mistakes.

I know you know what I'm saying. It's just so common. It's so easy to find this kind of people, wherever you are, whoever you are.

Well, you and I are just human. We can't always be right. Sometimes we make mistakes, and sometimes it makes people don't like it. If that's the case, try to evaluate yourself and learn from your mistakes. However, there's also a time when some people just keep looking for something wrong in you. And it's dangerous if you listen to them. They can destroy you. I hope you know the difference between these kinds of people.

So, the best thing you can do is just to be positive. You know yourself the best. If it's because you're wrong, try to fix it. But if it's just them who try to find something wrong in you, don't even care. Life's too short to waste your time for them. After all, just like what my lecturer said, you don't have to fix them. You just need to avoid them.

You're a valuable person. Don't let anyone keep showing your weaknesses and make you feel like you're someone worthless. Never.

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