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The solution when you're confused

These days I was so confused. It's like I don't know which step I should take since I don't exactly know where the way leads me to. All I think is 'what if'. What if I take this way? Then I can't find what I will find if I go another way? In contrast, what if I take the another way? I can't get what I will get if I go this way?

Confusion is a word we have invented for an order which is not understood. Henry Miller

Well, confusion always makes everything confusing. It doesn't lead you anywhere, it just brings you bigger confusing situation. And then I realized something. I'm confused not because I don't know what I should do. It's because I don't know what I'm looking for. And in life, it always happen to us.

Let me illustrate this. Let's say there are two ways you can choose. First way will bring you to a place where you can find people you love. The second way is different. It has a lot of money that definitely makes you rich. There is a situation when you're confused.

I'm confused not because I don't know what I should do. It's because I don't know what I'm looking for. And in life, it always happen to us.

Maybe you want to follow the first way as you can feel happy when you're with the people you love. Make sense. But you don't have money? It's not a guarantee there's money there, and you know you can't live without money. Then you change your mind, you decide to follow the second way. You think it's okay not to be with people you love, because you can still survive without them, because you have money! But then you think again, what's the point of having a lot money and living this life if you can't feel happy with the people you love? And maybe you'll find new people there who you can also love?

Well, I'm not gonna debating about which way is right. But this confusing situation often comes to our lives. It's not always about money, people you love, or what. It's just example. It can be anything.

Whether we realize or not, when we're confused, we keep asking about which the right way we should go. We focus too much about it, while what we really need is to know what we really need, not the right way. The question now is not which the right way to go, but which we we're looking for. Is it happiness with the people we love? Or surviving life with money is already enough? Weigh both, which one is more important?

We focus too much about which the right way we should go, while what we really need is to know what we really need, not the right way.

When we try to know which the right way to go, we will never know it. When we know what we're looking for, we will know the right way to go. The hardest part is to know what you're really looking for. But, at least it will lead you to less confusion, or no confusion.

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